Thursday, July 1, 2010

My Momma Used To Say....


My momma used to say, "Karen, things in this world go full circle. If you live long enough, you will see things from their beginning to their end." Then she would tell me about a child she knew that was mean and vicious to their parents who grew up wild, married the "wrong guy", had children of their own and, BOOM, their child was "just like them at that age." Those people had come full circle. They finally get to experience just what it was like to be the parents of themselves.

Full circle doesn't always mean a bad outcome. There are those kids whose parents didn't spend a lick of time raising them. Parents who were so self focused their children learned to cook when they were 5 so they didn't starve. Kids who were organized, smart and did their homework and made a lot of really good choices on their way. Kids who grew up and worked their way through college and were so driven to "become" something they would sell blood to have the money just to make it where they wanted to be. And then one day, all that hard work pays off and they ARE somebody. They are focused parents to their kids and are actually able to give back to their communities.

You may think from these two examples that "Full Circle" takes a lifetime but it doesn't. Sometime it only takes a matter of minutes from the time some one gossips about another's husband or wife having an affair with someone else until they find out themselves that their own spouse is unfaithful. Or maybe someone has opened their door into your car really hard and left a dent only to find out as they come out of the store that someone has rear ended them and left the scene. (No, not the same person... what are you thinking??)

I like to think of things in this big circular pattern of life. Of being born, growing up, marrying, having kids and the cycle repeats. It makes me feel like I'm a part of something larger than myself. Each year we go though seasons, moon cycles, tidal patterns, birth, growth, harvest and dormancy. Around and around. And I'd like to think that as I am on this "ride" that I am constantly thinking of new ideas, growing them up, enjoying them and as they come to rest, finding something new to take their place.

And, as my momma would say, "there is usually time along the way to change the outcome of these circles if we put our minds to it.........."

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